It's been said that the path to hell is paved with good intentions. So even the ones who are humble and know when they're out of their depth are part of the apparatus of oppression.
And the ones who don't, which is most of them: well Frazzled, similar to your story, a friend of mine was being beaten black and blue by her sociopath husband (a non Jw for the record) and went to the elders for help. She went to them rather than the police because 30 years of Jw conditioning told her to trust these men because they had holy spirit so could help her. Well, having no clue about domestic violence and the men who do it, they told her to go back to him and be more submissive. I don't know how a mother can be submissive when her son is being smashed and kicked and starved. Anyway she stayed with him and he broke her spine. She's now a cripple living for years in constant agony. She ended up leaving of course but the damage was done. She'd be dead if she hadn't sinned by leaving him. That's what untrained, ignorant advice from people who think they're appointed by god gets you.